"Our Care Continues"
Family Checklist After the funeral there are some things that may need your attention. This brief checklist can help you organize these responsibilities. If you need futher assistance, please let us know. We will be glad to assist you.
We notify social security of the death of your loved one. If you have any questions the telephone number for Social Security is 1-800-722-1213.
SOME HELPFUL COMMENTS
Each place of business or agency has itís own procedures. If possible, find out by phone or mail first what is required so you can be better prepared.
Try to communicate with just one person from each place.
Use your time wisely. Use the telephone and mail as much as you can, unless you feel the need to visit these places.
If you get tired of making these adjustments, slow down and rest until you gain your energy back, or find someone you trust who can help you with these matters.
PRATICAL CONCERNS AFTER THE FUNERAL
BANK ACCOUNTS - CONTACT BANKER
___ Change any joint account held in your name and the name of the deceased.
___ Correct the tax identification number on financial accounts which are in the name of the deceased (usually social security number).
___ Cancel any direct deposit (withdrawals) for retirement benefits payments that are in the name of the deceased.
___ Change the title of any safe deposit box in which the name of the deceased was involved.
___ Contact creditors for all mortgages, personal notes, ETC..., in which the name of the deceased is involved.
____ Change the account name for the certificate of deposits and other accounts in which the name of the deceased is involved.
STOCKS AND BONDS CONTACT BROKER
___ Change ownership of joint or solely owned stocks.
___ Cancel any open orders arranged by the deceased.
___ Transfer or close IRA and retirement accounts.
___ Transfer bonds.
___ Transfer other investments managed by brokers.
* Cancel all individually held cards in the name of the deceased
* Change all jointly held accounts.
* You may want to apply for credit card insurance when applicable.
* File claims for life insurance. We will be happy to help you with this if you wish.
* File claims for retirement benefits.
* Change ownership of home owner's insurance if it is in the name of the deceased.
* Change ownership of any auto insurance that is in the name of the deceased.
It may be necessary to probate the estate, or update your existing will. Contact your attorney for a listing of items you need to bring.
WE HOPE THAT THIS HAS BEEN HELPFUL TO YOU. PLEASE DO NOT HESITATE TO CALL ON US IF YOU HAVE ANY QUESTIONS REGARDING THIS OR ANY OTHER SERVICES WE HAVE PROVIDED. YOUR NEEDS REMAIN OUR FIRST CONCERN.
Books for You and Your Family
- Understanding Grief, Helping Yourself Heal, Alan Wolfelt
- Living When A Loved One Has Died, Earl Grollman
- Concerning Death: A Practical Guide for the Living, Earl Grollman
- Talking About Death: A Dialogue Between Parent and Child, Earl Grollman
- When Children Hurt, Earl Grollman
- What Helped Me When My Loved One Died, Earl Grollman
- Death: The Final Stage of Growth, Elisabeth Kubler-Ross
- Living with Death and Dying, Elisabeth Kubler-Ross
- On Death and Dying, Elisabeth Kubler-Ross
- Don't Take My Grief Away, Doug Manning
- Listen to the Heart, Geeri Howe
- Our Greatest Gift: A Meditation on Dying and Caring, Henri Nouwen
- Living Through Mourning: Finding Comfort and Hope When a Loved One Had Died, Harriett Schiff*
- How to Survive the Loss of a Love, Melba H. Colgrove
- The Mourning After: How to Manage Grief Wisely, Stanley P. Cornils
- Understanding Mourning: A Guide for Those Who Grieve, Religion and Medicine Series of Augsburg Publishing House
Additional Reading Sources
- Recovering From the Loss of a Loved One, Kathleen Fair
- Explaining Death to Children, edited by Earl A. Grollman. With an introd. by Louise Bates Ames
- Straight Talk About Death for Teenagers: How to Cope With Losing Someone You Love, Earl A. Grollman
- Bereaved Children and Teens: A Support Guide for Parents and Professionals, Earl A. Grollman
- On Children and Death, Elisabeth Kubler-Ross
- The Wheel of Life: A Memoir of Living and Dying, Elisabeth Kubler-Ross
Support groups offer the sense that a survivor is not alone. Many people say they gain comfort from sharing their feelings with others who had similar experiences. These groups provide a confidential, safe and caring environment to release emotional tension.
Widowed Persons Service - (202) 434-2260
Society of Military Widows - 1-800-842-3451, Ext. 1005
Hospice Foundation of America - (800) 854-3402
Emotions Anonymous - (612) 647-9712
Theos (They Help Each Other Spiritually) Foundation - (412) 471-7779
Rainbows - (800) 266-3206
Pregnancy and Infant Loss
National SID (Sudden Infant Death Syndrome) Foundation - (800) 221-7437
National Center for the Prevention of SIDS - (800) 638-SIDS
Center for Loss in Multiple Birth (CLIMB) - (907) 746-6123
Parents of Murdered Children - (513) 721-5683
Web Site for Support
The internet is a terrific reference resource with a variety of grief and support sites. Some offer support and advice, other pages provide an opportunity to anonymously memorialize loved ones and some sites are open discussions.
Here is just a sampling of what's available:
Batesville Casket Company's grief section
National Funeral Director's Association
Dr. Alan Wolfelt and his Center for Loss and Life Transition
National Select Morticians
International Order of the Golden Rule
Yahoo's grief-related index
Webster's Death, Dying and Grief Guide